I fell into a state of profound melancholy. I was so frustrated so depressed on everything I'm having. Things I planned but undone; Goals I set but am not be able to achieve. I spent the entire afternoon on struggling and blaming at myself about the stupid inner feeling I'm having on my head and my heart. I know what it is but I just don't know why it happens! I don't know what the fxxking matter I have this year. I just can't get everything done, even right. I got a FAILED on my major subject. yes. FAILED!!!! (great! i have the guts to type it "loud".) I actually already emotionally prepared before I turned in the project. Anyway still feel sad about it--- terribly sad after I tried fxxking hard on that. So this afternoon, I was totally in a bad mood to do everything. I got up online and see who I can talk to ---- Right. ONLINE? How long I haven't been truly talked with someone seriously on the phone?! Heck.... After I got splited quite years ago... 3 and more years till now, I once found myself is not communicative at all. I start becoming isolate myself which worsen my mentality.
Anyway, back to the online thing.
I was totally depressed this afternoon so I got online to see who I can talk to. My friend again asked me to go to his blog that he did this a month ago when I was coping with the fxxking bullshit FYP. He likes me going there and I enjoy it as well. Cuz usually we got the similiar thing in head at a time. After I spent more than 30 minutes reading his blog, I ended up with a smile. :) So I decided to write all out to face the problems which have been bugging me this year.
"... I realized over the last few days that I've been bending my body in all the wrong ways - in ways it is either not ready to bend, or simply does not want to bend. My mind has all sorts of ideas about what I should become, how I should change, and what a perfect person would do, but that is not who I am. I have been spending too much time figuring out how to change myself into the perfect person, rather than spending time "coming into myself" so to speak, in other words discovering what makes me tick and unleashing my own power.
Over the last few weeks I have put a lot of pressure on myself, and have been using an unfair measuring stick at every step of the way, smacking my own hand when the numbers aren't good enough. I have been going about this personal developtment stuff from the wrong angle. ...
... I need to start fresh again. I don't need a purpose, as I don't have a notion of myself. I need to find myself again. My body has been giving me signs that I should move on, and I believe what it is really telling me is to quit the bullshit and stop joking yourself: shed what doesn't really matter and pick yourself back up. Let all that does not matter slide. ... "
Extracted by Jas's
I was glad to read this as it is exactly what it is in my mind that I lack of gutz to say it loud. When I see someone write it and understand, I feel peace in mind.
And then at night time after washing the dishes, that gloom suddenly attacked me again. I fool arouund and went to Vivek's blog. (Vivek Mahbubani. The Indian guy speaks cantonese in youtube.) In fact I admire him, not only the way he talks also the way he writes and thinks. He is a well organizer. There are always messages in his blog that I like reading it. (As I'm a pre-toastmasters, his public speaking and writing skill is wonderful.) This time I got inspired again from reading his entry: "Letting things just flow.GTD says you're only as productive as you are relaxed."
You actually like what you are doing but you are just out of faith. Relax. You'll find it back.
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